Anyone who has experienced the death of a loved one knows that the process of grieving doesn’t follow a logical linear process. It has its own way of moving through us and its own way of working itself out, if we let it.
There will be times when it’s easier to carry on with life in the absence of our departed friends or family members, and there will be times when we struggle to come to terms with the reality that that person is no longer in this world.
We are designed to adapt
The landscape of our life is constantly changing, in both a literal and a metaphorical sense, every day. We may be in the same place or places with the same people on a day to day basis, but each day is a unique experience and no two days are ever the same.
Our feelings and thoughts, actions and words will vary as will the world around us which is in a constant state of flux ebbing and flowing. Nothing ever stays the same for too long, of that we can be sure. Knowing this can bring some degree of comfort during times of grief and sorrow.
For example, if we regularly go somewhere in nature, and one day we turn up and find that a couple of prominent trees have been cut down, we observe and feel their absence. The space that they used to inhabit is suddenly empty. We may feel sad that they are no longer there and sense a shift in the energy of the place as a result of the trees being removed. Eventually, we become accustomed to the trees not being there as the landscape takes on a new version of ‘normal’.
We adapt, as do the plants, trees and animal life that inhabit that place. We do the same when someone familiar is no longer a part of our life. It may take a while, but we will adapt.
No one said it was meant to be easy
Pain and loss aren’t easy, yet they are something that we will all face during our lifetime. Some of us have experienced what could be considered our ‘fair share’ of losses and grief while others may have had very little-to-no experience of loss or death. When it happens, each experience will be unique depending on the relationship we shared with the person who has died.
There are ways to embrace the process as it unfolds and allow ourselves to embody the fullness of the experiences we are having. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to feel when it comes to death and the feelings of loss that arise when we lose someone dear to us. Some of us need time alone to process our grief while others find it beneficial to grieve with others who are going through the same process.
Keeping the energy flowing
If we allow ourselves to experience the fullness of our emotions, thoughts and feelings, without repressing them or getting stuck in them, we are enabling the free movement of energy through our emotional body.
This free movement of energy will keep our emotional body clear and prevent it from becoming cluttered with trapped emotions which, if not addressed, may eventually manifest as physical or mental/emotional disease or illness.
Natural emotional support for times of grief
First Light Natural Health® Grief Support© provides support when we are experiencing emotional pain and sadness that accompanies the death of someone close to us. The specially selected New Zealand botanical plant infusions in Grief Support© help us to process our grief in a healthy and holistic way to assist us in coming to a place of understanding and acceptance of what is.
Grief Support© contains seven specially selected New Zealand native plants that possess emotionally uplifting properties to help us come to terms with loss and endings and giving us the strength and optimism we need as we move forward with our lives.
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Flickr Creative Commons Image via Patrick Condon, x1klima, William Wootton . Plant images via First Light Flower Essences of New Zealand®
Care and Comfort
A comforting plant infusion blend to provide emotional support and care during times of bereavement or loss. Assists in healing heart-felt emotions, coming to terms with the past and stepping onto the next phase. Gentle and soothing. Use when trying to cope with a loss, feeling isolated, guilty, regretful or going through grief.